Understanding one’s own sexual interests, desires and needs is complicated in today’s world with the rapid technological pace at which we receive information along with the vast convoluted messages acquired from so many varying sources. Hollywood idealism, internet fact and fiction, political dogma, religious indoctrination, diversity of cultures, educational background, pornographic fantasy, varying styles of parental role-models, family structure, peer groups and past experiences all collide psychologically to influence an individual’s sense of “normalcy” with regard to SEX.
Complicating ideas and behaviors about sex and self are the biologically driven desires, the intense pleasure via hormone release, habituation of neuroconnections, and the desire to feel accepted, safe and connected. Sexual confusion abounds as biological desire and environmental circumstance comingle with conscious and unconscious strivings to repeat past childhood learned patterns of safety, trust, fear of vulnerability, and self-worth within the construct of a relationship with oneself and another.
It is an understatement to describe humanity as a complex system aiding and abetting an individual’s sense of purpose and ability to make fruitful choices with regard to the vastness of the sexual system. Dr. Silbert understands the confounding variables of existence and sexuality. She integrates her experience, education and philosophy for change as she consults with individuals and couples for the best outcome.